How do I network in burlesque if I'm a socially awkward introvert?

Whether you are starting out, or are a seasoned performer, good networking is something that is worth practising. I think it’s fair to say that I’m not one of life’s networkers. So I am always in awe of performers that are great behind the scenes and who appropriately network at events or online.

Why is this important? It’s all well and good to be talented. But getting opportunities to perform without connecting with other people.

Not a natural extrovert? Me neither. This is stuff I suck at. But it’s a necessity really. So take some tips from someone that generally hates chit chat and has a low tolerance for bullshit.

If you are one of life’s natural connectors, please leave some tips or ideas in the comments below! for the rest of us.

If you are someone that also struggles, here are some of the ways that I try to get past that social anxiety and network authentically.

Be yourself

I can never fake it. And while I try to be polite, I also think that if someone really rankles with you to the point you need to change your personality or move far from your authentic self, it’s not worth it. I can’t leave my fundamental values at the door. But I’ve never had to rely on burlesque as my main income, so I know I need to check my privilege.

However you can only pretend for so long. It’s exhausting. Be authentic to your values and be honest. I think everyone spots a phony a mile of

Be kind

Be kind to other artists. I remember the little gestures: the person that safety pinned me backstage; that ducked out to do a coffee run for the overworked tech; that sent a thank you email to the producing team. You don’t need to be a party animal to get noticed. Kind gestures go a long way in my book.

Try one new thing

Trying to suddenly be a ‘networker’ is just ridiculous and overwhelming. So each gig you do or each day you get on your social media channels, just try one new thing. This could be adding a comment to a performer you admire or want to work with; sharing an article that someone might find useful to saying hello backstage to someone you don’t know. You can build up to pitching yourself for events or activities. Start simple and go from there.